I shared some of this information at Silver's Club recently, but choose to share it with all for greater leadership at all levels:
Developing the Leadership Within You
by John Maxwell
The key to success in any endeavor is the ability to lead others to success. Everything rises and falls on leadership. The effectiveness of your work will never rise above your ability to lead others. Your leadership skills determine the level of your success and those around you. Leadership principles can be learned. Link leadership principles up with desire and nothing can stop you from becoming a successful leader.
Management is the process of assuring that the programs and objectives will be implemented. Leadership is casting visions and motivating people. People don't want to be managed - they want to be lead. Manage yourself but lead others to success. Do this well and you'll be ready to stop managing and start leading.
Definition of leadership is INFLUENCE. "He who thinketh he leadeth and hath no one following him is merely taking a walk." Leadership is the ability to obtain followers. Once you figure out leading is the ability to attain followers, you work backward to learn how to lead. The problem is that most people define leadership as the ability to achieve a given position, not to get followers. They go after a position, rank, or title and upon their arrival think they have become a leader.
Two common problems arise from this line of thinking: 1) those who possess the status of a leader often experience the frustration of few followers. 2) those who lack a title don't see themselves as leaders and don't develop their leadership skills. In any group of people there is a prominent influencer. You can easily find them. Who is the one whose opinion seems most valuable? Who is the one whom others watch when issues are discussed? Who is the one with whom people quickly agree? What kind of influencer will you be?
Climbing the Steps of Leadership
a. The higher you go in position of leadership the longer it takes
b. Must start at the lowest level & work way up
c. Higher you go, higher level of commitment
d. Higher you go the easier it is to lead
e. Higher you go, the greater the growth
- Growth can occur when effective change takes place
- Change will become easier & others will assist in making needed changes
f. NEVER STOP LEADING THE BASE LEVEL or organization will collapse. Each level of leadership stands on the previous one, like a pyramid
g. Take other influencers in the organization up the ladder with you to the next level
There are five (5) levels of leadership each building on top of the other.
Level 1 is Position (Basic entry level)
You are given authority because of a title. Only influence is that which comes with the title. There is territorial rights, organizational charts, etc. This leadership is given by appointment. All other levels gained by ability. In control because one has been appointed to a position, but real leadership is when others will gladly follow.
Level 2 is Permission
People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Leadership begins witht he heart not the head. This level of leadership flourishes with meaningful relationships not with regulations. Lead by building inter-relationships. At Level 2 time, energy, and focus is spent on individuals needs and desires. You can love people without leading them, but you cannot lead them without loving them.
Level 3 is Production
Morale is high, turn over is low and there is a profit. Needs are met, goals are set and realized. There is momentum, growth and leading is fun. Problems are solved with minimal effort. Everyone is result oriented. At Level 2 everyone like to get together just to get together, but at Level 3, they like to get together to accomplish goals
- results. DO NOT SKIP A LEVEL!! Level 2 is the glue that holds the organization together. Building relationships is a process that provides the glue for long-term consistent production.
Level 4 is People Development
At this level, people follow because of what the leader has done for them. Leader commitment to develop other leaders inspires ongoing growth. Great leaders empower others. Workers main responsibility is to do the work himself. Leaders main responsibility is to develop others to do the work. Success without a successor is failure. Loyalty to the leader reaches its peak when the follower has grown through the mentorship of the leader. At Level 2 the follower loves the leader, at Level 3 the follower admires the leader, at Level 4 the follower is loyal to the leader. Why? Win peoples hearts by helping them grow personally.
Level 5 is Personhood
People follow because of who the leader is and what the leader represents. Can be developed only through a lifetime of leadership development. In order to get to top, do two things: 1) Know what level of leadership you are on at this very moment and know what level followers are on. You will be at different levels with different people in the organization. If biggest influencers in the organization are at the highest levels and supportive of you, you have a good chance to attain leadership success. If not, problems will arise. 2) Know and apply the qualities needed to be successful at each level of leadership. At #1 position, know your job and do more than is expected. At #2, love people. Make it a win, win situation. Make others successful. At #3 position, initiate change. Be an agent for growth. Do things that give high return - be a visionary. At #4, realize that people are your most valuable asset and develop them. Attract other winners to goals and levels of leadership.
Showing posts with label Self Improvement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self Improvement. Show all posts
Thursday, July 31, 2008
The Qualities of a Charismatic Leader
Charisma is defined as:
"The ability to inspire enthusiasm, interest, or affection in others, by means of personal charm or influence."
Leaders who have this special ability share four (4) things in common:
Charisma is an attractive blend of learnable qualities.
"Leaders draw out the best in their people, give the best of themselves, and find the greatest fulfillment." - John C Maxwell
"The ability to inspire enthusiasm, interest, or affection in others, by means of personal charm or influence."
Leaders who have this special ability share four (4) things in common:
- They Love Life
*Smile - They value the potential in people
*Leaders see people, not as they are, but as they could be
"The greatest good you can do for another is not to share your riches but to reveal to him his own." - They give hope
Napoleon Bonaparte once said: "Leaders are dealers in hope."
*Paint tomorrow brighter than today. - They share themselves
*Wisdom *Resources *Special occasions
Charisma is an attractive blend of learnable qualities.
"Leaders draw out the best in their people, give the best of themselves, and find the greatest fulfillment." - John C Maxwell
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Love Language Profile for Men
The profile consists of 30 pairs of statements. Pick the ONE statement in each pair that best represents your DESIRE. Once you've made your selections, go back and count the number of times you circled each individual letter. You can list the results in the appropriate spaces at the end of the profile.
A My wife’s love notes make me feel good.
E I love my wife’s hugs.
B I like to be alone with my wife.
D I feel loved when my wife helps me do yard work.
C Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy.
B I enjoy long trips with my wife.
D I feel loved when my wife does my laundry.
E I like it when my wife touches me.
E I feel loved when my wife puts her arm around me.
C I know my wife loves me because she surprises me with gifts.
B I like going almost anywhere with my wife.
E I like to hold my wife’s hand.
C I value the gifts my wife gives me.
A I love to hear my wife say she loves me.
E I like for my wife to sit close to me.
A My wife tells me I look good, and I like that.
B Spending time with my wife makes me happy.
C Even the smallest gift from my wife is important to me.
A I feel loved when my wife tells me she is proud of me.
D When my wife cooks a meal for me, I know that she loves me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife.
A Supportive comments from my wife make me feel good.
D Little things my wife does for me mean more to me than things she says.
E I love to hug my wife.
A My wife’s praise means a lot to me.
C It means a lot to me that my wife gives me gifts I really like.
B Just being around my wife makes me feel good.
E I love it when my wife rubs my back.
A My wife’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
D It means a lot to me when my wife helps me with something I know she hates.
E I never get tired of my wife’s kisses.
B I love that my wife shows real interest in things I like to do.
D I can count on my wife to help me with projects.
C I still get excited when opening a gift from my wife.
A I love for my wife to compliment my appearance.
B I love that my wife listens to my ideas and doesn’t rush to judge or criticize.
E I can’t help but touch my wife when she is close by.
D My wife sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
D My wife deserves an award for all the things she does to help me.
C I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my wife’s gifts to me are.
B I love having my wife’s undivided attention.
D Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.
C I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.
A I never get tired of hearing my wife tell me that I am important to her.
C My wife lets me know she loves me by giving me gifts.
D My wife shows her love by helping me catch up on projects around the house.
B My wife doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
C I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.
D My wife can tell when I’m tired, and she’s good about asking how she can help.
B It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my wife.
E I love having sex with my wife.
C I love surprise gifts from my wife.
A My wife’s encouraging words give me confidence.
B I love to watch movies with my wife.
C I just couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my wife gives me.
E I just can’t keep my hands off my wife.
D It means a lot to me when my wife helps me despite having other things to do.
A It makes me feel really good when my wife tells me she appreciates me.
E I love hugging and kissing my wife after we’ve been apart for a while.
A I love hearing my wife tell me that she believes in me.
A: ______ B: ______ C: ______ D: ______ E: ______
A=Words of Affirmation B=Quality Time C=Receiving Gifts
D=Acts of Service E=Physical Touch
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are "bilingual" and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages If your second highest scoring love language is close in score to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you.
Taken from The Five Love Languages, BY Gary D Chapman, Zondervan Publishing House.
A My wife’s love notes make me feel good.
E I love my wife’s hugs.
B I like to be alone with my wife.
D I feel loved when my wife helps me do yard work.
C Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy.
B I enjoy long trips with my wife.
D I feel loved when my wife does my laundry.
E I like it when my wife touches me.
E I feel loved when my wife puts her arm around me.
C I know my wife loves me because she surprises me with gifts.
B I like going almost anywhere with my wife.
E I like to hold my wife’s hand.
C I value the gifts my wife gives me.
A I love to hear my wife say she loves me.
E I like for my wife to sit close to me.
A My wife tells me I look good, and I like that.
B Spending time with my wife makes me happy.
C Even the smallest gift from my wife is important to me.
A I feel loved when my wife tells me she is proud of me.
D When my wife cooks a meal for me, I know that she loves me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife.
A Supportive comments from my wife make me feel good.
D Little things my wife does for me mean more to me than things she says.
E I love to hug my wife.
A My wife’s praise means a lot to me.
C It means a lot to me that my wife gives me gifts I really like.
B Just being around my wife makes me feel good.
E I love it when my wife rubs my back.
A My wife’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
D It means a lot to me when my wife helps me with something I know she hates.
E I never get tired of my wife’s kisses.
B I love that my wife shows real interest in things I like to do.
D I can count on my wife to help me with projects.
C I still get excited when opening a gift from my wife.
A I love for my wife to compliment my appearance.
B I love that my wife listens to my ideas and doesn’t rush to judge or criticize.
E I can’t help but touch my wife when she is close by.
D My wife sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
D My wife deserves an award for all the things she does to help me.
C I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my wife’s gifts to me are.
B I love having my wife’s undivided attention.
D Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.
C I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.
A I never get tired of hearing my wife tell me that I am important to her.
C My wife lets me know she loves me by giving me gifts.
D My wife shows her love by helping me catch up on projects around the house.
B My wife doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
C I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.
D My wife can tell when I’m tired, and she’s good about asking how she can help.
B It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my wife.
E I love having sex with my wife.
C I love surprise gifts from my wife.
A My wife’s encouraging words give me confidence.
B I love to watch movies with my wife.
C I just couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my wife gives me.
E I just can’t keep my hands off my wife.
D It means a lot to me when my wife helps me despite having other things to do.
A It makes me feel really good when my wife tells me she appreciates me.
E I love hugging and kissing my wife after we’ve been apart for a while.
A I love hearing my wife tell me that she believes in me.
A: ______ B: ______ C: ______ D: ______ E: ______
A=Words of Affirmation B=Quality Time C=Receiving Gifts
D=Acts of Service E=Physical Touch
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are "bilingual" and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages If your second highest scoring love language is close in score to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you.
Taken from The Five Love Languages, BY Gary D Chapman, Zondervan Publishing House.
Love Language Profile for Women
The profile consists of 30 pairs of statements. Pick the ONE statement in each pair that best represents your DESIRE. Once you've made your selections, go back and count the number of times you circled each individual letter. You can list the results in the appropriate spaces at the end of the profile.
A Sweet notes from my husband make me feel good.
E I love my husband’s hugs.
B I like to be alone with my husband.
D I feel loved when my husband washes my car.
C Receiving special gifts from my husband makes me happy.
B I enjoy long trips with my husband.
D I feel loved when my husband helps with the laundry.
E I like it when my husband touches me.
E I feel loved when my husband puts his arm around me.
C I know my husband loves me because he surprises me with gifts.
B I like going almost anywhere with my husband.
E I like to hold my husband’s hand.
C I value the gifts my husband gives me.
A I love to hear my husband say he loves me.
E I like for my husband to sit close to me.
A My husband tells me I look good, and I like that.
B Spending time with my husband makes me happy.
C Even the smallest gift from my husband is important to me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
C When my husband helps clean up after a meal, I know that he loves me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
A Supportive comments from my husband make me feel good.
D Little things my husband does for me mean more to me than things he says.
E I love to hug my husband.
A My husband’s praise means a lot to me.
C It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like.
B Just being around my husband makes me feel good.
E I love it when my husband gives me a massage.
A My husband’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
D It means a lot to me when my husband helps me with something I know he hates.
E I never get tired of my husband’s kisses.
B I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do.
D I can count on my husband to help me with projects.
C I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.
A I love my husband to compliment my appearance.
B I love that my husband listens to me and respects my ideas.
E I can’t help but touch my husband when he is close by.
D My husband sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
D My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me.
C I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband’s gifts to me are.
B I love having my husband’s undivided attention.
D I love that my husband helps clean the house.
C I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.
A I never get tired of hearing my husband tell me that I am important to him.
C My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts.
D My husband shows his love by helping me without me having to ask.
B My husband doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
C I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.
D My husband is good about asking how he can help when I’m tired.
B It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.
E I love cuddling with my husband.
C I love surprise gifts from my husband.
A My husband’s encouraging words give me confidence.
B I love to watch movies with my husband.
C I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me.
E I love it that my husband can’t keep his hands off me.
D It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.
A It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me.
E I love hugging and kissing my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.
A I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.
A: ______ B: ______ C: ______ D: ______ E: ______
A=Words of Affirmation B=Quality Time C=Receiving Gifts
D=Acts of Service E=Physical Touch
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are "bilingual" and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages If your second highest scoring love language is close in score to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you.
Taken from The Five Love Languages, BY Gary D Chapman, Zondervan Publishing House.
A Sweet notes from my husband make me feel good.
E I love my husband’s hugs.
B I like to be alone with my husband.
D I feel loved when my husband washes my car.
C Receiving special gifts from my husband makes me happy.
B I enjoy long trips with my husband.
D I feel loved when my husband helps with the laundry.
E I like it when my husband touches me.
E I feel loved when my husband puts his arm around me.
C I know my husband loves me because he surprises me with gifts.
B I like going almost anywhere with my husband.
E I like to hold my husband’s hand.
C I value the gifts my husband gives me.
A I love to hear my husband say he loves me.
E I like for my husband to sit close to me.
A My husband tells me I look good, and I like that.
B Spending time with my husband makes me happy.
C Even the smallest gift from my husband is important to me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
C When my husband helps clean up after a meal, I know that he loves me.
B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
A Supportive comments from my husband make me feel good.
D Little things my husband does for me mean more to me than things he says.
E I love to hug my husband.
A My husband’s praise means a lot to me.
C It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like.
B Just being around my husband makes me feel good.
E I love it when my husband gives me a massage.
A My husband’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
D It means a lot to me when my husband helps me with something I know he hates.
E I never get tired of my husband’s kisses.
B I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do.
D I can count on my husband to help me with projects.
C I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.
A I love my husband to compliment my appearance.
B I love that my husband listens to me and respects my ideas.
E I can’t help but touch my husband when he is close by.
D My husband sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
D My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me.
C I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband’s gifts to me are.
B I love having my husband’s undivided attention.
D I love that my husband helps clean the house.
C I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.
A I never get tired of hearing my husband tell me that I am important to him.
C My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts.
D My husband shows his love by helping me without me having to ask.
B My husband doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
C I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.
D My husband is good about asking how he can help when I’m tired.
B It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.
E I love cuddling with my husband.
C I love surprise gifts from my husband.
A My husband’s encouraging words give me confidence.
B I love to watch movies with my husband.
C I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me.
E I love it that my husband can’t keep his hands off me.
D It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.
A It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me.
E I love hugging and kissing my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.
A I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.
A: ______ B: ______ C: ______ D: ______ E: ______
A=Words of Affirmation B=Quality Time C=Receiving Gifts
D=Acts of Service E=Physical Touch
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are "bilingual" and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages If your second highest scoring love language is close in score to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you.
Taken from The Five Love Languages, BY Gary D Chapman, Zondervan Publishing House.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Poem I read at convention
I read the following poem at the 2007 convention in Washington, DC. I thought some of you might like to have a copy.
"Love: The Greatest Four-letter Word"
L - is for Listen.
To love someone is to listen unconditionally to his or her values and needs without prejudice.
O - is for Overlook.
To love someone is to overlook the flaws and faults in favor of looking for the good.
V - is for Voice.
To love someone is to voice your approval on a regular basis. There is no substitute for honest encouragement, positive strokes, and praise.
E - is for Effort.
To love someone is to make a constant effort to spend the time, to make the sacrifice, to show your interest.
"Love: The Greatest Four-letter Word"
L - is for Listen.
To love someone is to listen unconditionally to his or her values and needs without prejudice.
O - is for Overlook.
To love someone is to overlook the flaws and faults in favor of looking for the good.
V - is for Voice.
To love someone is to voice your approval on a regular basis. There is no substitute for honest encouragement, positive strokes, and praise.
E - is for Effort.
To love someone is to make a constant effort to spend the time, to make the sacrifice, to show your interest.
Friday, June 15, 2007
Vonns Reading List...
As promised, here is the book list from class last night. They are in no particular order. Enjoy!!
Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, Carolyn Mein D.C.
The Miracle of Healing in Your Church Today, Jim Lynn
The Hundred Year Lie, Randall Fitzgerald
Medisin, Dr. Scott Whataker, N.D, and Jose Fleming, C.N., M.H.
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die, Karol K. Truman
The Divided Mind, John E. Sarno M.D.
Your Body Speaks your Mind, Deb Shapiro
There is the list, Happy Reading!!
Blessings to you from Vonn's blog,
ValorieJane,
assistant to Marcella Vonn Harting
Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, Carolyn Mein D.C.
The Miracle of Healing in Your Church Today, Jim Lynn
The Hundred Year Lie, Randall Fitzgerald
Medisin, Dr. Scott Whataker, N.D, and Jose Fleming, C.N., M.H.
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die, Karol K. Truman
The Divided Mind, John E. Sarno M.D.
Your Body Speaks your Mind, Deb Shapiro
There is the list, Happy Reading!!
Blessings to you from Vonn's blog,
ValorieJane,
assistant to Marcella Vonn Harting
Monday, January 23, 2006
Everyday Positive Thinking by Louise L. Hay and Friends
The thoughts you choose to think and believe right now are creating your future. These thoughts form your experiences tomorrow, next week, and next year. ~Louise L. Hay
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY HOLIDAYS
This year has come to an end so quickly and with that I am sharing how grateful I am for each and everyone of you in my life. Christmas is my favorite time of year, connecting with people I love and letting go of anything and everything that does not serve me or support me or others anymore. I am committing to new beginnings. I'm excited to step into a new role of a mentoring leaders and creating a more efficient and effective way of building and supporting my Young Living Organization which can be mastered.
The necessary ingredients to mastery are:
1. MODELING: if you choose something,find someone who has already mastered what you choose to learn and then model them.
2. TOTAL IMMERSION: The human brain has the capacity to process so much rapidly. When you breathe, smell, taste, and live something day in and out, your learning curve explodes in terms of its tempo. That's how you go from dabbling or stressing to pure mastery. You're living it, you're breathing it, you're smelling it, and you're in the zone. (my playshops create this immerson-see my website for more details on up-coming playshops).
3. SPACED REPETITION: Spacing out your immersion sessions, you will maximize your ability to integrate and use what you learn. Also, one of our most important resources is our peer group. You become who you hang out with. This is so important and I will spend lots more time and energy talking about this in the new year.
Looking forward to sharing, loving and teaching more in the coming year.
Love, Marcella Vonn
The necessary ingredients to mastery are:
1. MODELING: if you choose something,find someone who has already mastered what you choose to learn and then model them.
2. TOTAL IMMERSION: The human brain has the capacity to process so much rapidly. When you breathe, smell, taste, and live something day in and out, your learning curve explodes in terms of its tempo. That's how you go from dabbling or stressing to pure mastery. You're living it, you're breathing it, you're smelling it, and you're in the zone. (my playshops create this immerson-see my website for more details on up-coming playshops).
3. SPACED REPETITION: Spacing out your immersion sessions, you will maximize your ability to integrate and use what you learn. Also, one of our most important resources is our peer group. You become who you hang out with. This is so important and I will spend lots more time and energy talking about this in the new year.
Looking forward to sharing, loving and teaching more in the coming year.
Love, Marcella Vonn
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